"Happiness is different for each person. It is impossible to be happy all the time - we have to experience boths sides of the coin to realize whether or not the grass is greener on the other side". - Ray Kenyon
The Persuit of Happiness
We all deserve to be happy. Let no one tell you otherwise.
Yet we talk about the persuit of happiness as if it is something that needs to be chased.
This implies that being happy is in the future and exists outside of ourselves.
Really though you can decide to be happy today and not wait for some tomorrow.
Some of the happiest people I have had the good fortune to meet are those that decide for themselves to be happy now.
How do they do it?.
Everyone of us is capable of making decisions.
Everyone of us can learn.
The 'big secret' (if there is one) is that happiness exists and begins on the inside but we rarely allow ourselves to truly feel it.We are afraid.
Afraid that if we do allow ouselves to feel happy someone or something will come along and upset or cause distress to that feeling.
And since people don't like to feel vulnerable and exposed they guard their inner self with a ring of near impenetratable mental steel.
But it needs to be remembered : happiness exists on the inside and not the outside.
This is why so many people chase dreams of a material nature and for each dream that's met , the goal posts shift to the next dream.
The result of this is they will never be fullfilled since the happiness is sought in all the wrong places.
It is said that to be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition.
Everyone has their own ideas about fullfillment but there are a number of well known examples.
"The foolish person seeks happiness in the distance, the wise person grows it under his feet." - James Oppenheim
Some Top Happiness Goals
There are many factors for and against many of the items featured in this list, since each represents a different meaning from the perpective of the individual.
Happiness could be described as an intermediate station between too little and too much.It's not how much we have , but how much we enjoy that makes us happy.
For some people happiness is material gain wich ultimately is an empty vessel since you cant take it with you.
For others it is true love, which if in fact is true....should last forever.
"Happiness is a concious choice not an automatic response." - Mildred Barthel
The Case of Chuck Feeney
Chuck Feeney was a billionaire but followed a very different road to most of his contemporaries.
In the 1960's Chuck set up a Duty Free company that grew to be the most successful of it's kind in the world.
So Chuck became rich beyond his wildest dreams - he could do anything, have anything and go anwhere, anytime.
But instead of these things he decided to take a unique position.
He decided to give it all away!.
In 20 years he gave away $4 billion and is finishing the process of giving away the remaining $4 billon he owns.
What drives a man to do this, whilst others akin to the cartoon character Scrooge McDuck would rather just hoard it all?.
Chuck has a motto - "Giving while living", and wishes to act as an inspiration to others to do the same.The reason?.
His wish is to help solve the problems of today while he is still alive.
Many good causes have benefited due to his generosity from charities to education.
Despite all of this you may be wondering why you havn't heard of Chuck Feeney before.
It is because he is publicity shy, doesn't like his photo being taken,travels economy class, wears cheap off the peg clothes and doesn't much care for money.
When asked in an interview why he chose to wear a cheap plastic watch his reply was revealing of his thinking.
"If I can get a watch for $15 with a 5 year battery that keeps perfect time, what am I doing messing around with a Rolex?".
Perhaps there's a lesson there for all of us.
Chuck has 3 golden rules he follows -
1. Don't obsess over money.
2. Don't self-obsess
3. Give of yourself.
"You have to keep an eye on pleasures. Make sure you are enjoying them rather than them controlling you". - Englebert Humpedinck
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